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Message: [QUOTE="leftytg, post: 2650811, member: 2651"] I just wanted to quickly say I think you are spot on and are saving me a lot of typing. I've started a half dozen or so posts in this thread, but I just don't have it in me to enter the fray. I'm an attorney with CPS. I deal with mandated reporters all the time. A (depressingly) large portion of the cases I prosecute deal with domestic violence. While the facts described in this incident may be new and scandalous to many, there are a routine occurrence in my world. To those who think saying, "but why didn't she just go to the police if it was truly that bad" - I don't know how to put it except you simply don't know what you are talking about. You don't appreciate the complexities and considerations involved in intimate partner violence - especially when children are present. You need to consider that the decision making by the victims is not black and white and perhaps listen for a while. Or, better yet, go volunteer at a domestic violence shelter and listen to victims yourself. The thing that truly makes me shake my head is this notion that somehow there has been this seismic shift in how society sees domestic violence from 2009 to 2018. Nine freaking years! Not 1959 or 1979, but 2009! That is just preposterous. If one was trying to make that claim about sexual assault or using power to coerce sex (allt he Weinsten/me too stuff), then sure, no doubt. But domestic violence? No way, not in the last nine years. Because of family connections, I am very close to the inner workings of a blue blood football program. People trying to compare this to business or other kinds of employment are missing the point. EVERY. SINGLE. FOOTBALL. PROGRAM uses family as a selling point. They foster a family atmosphere in the program and sell that hard to recruits and players. It is culture, and it is an effective motivator and achieves cohesion. The coaching staff spends an insane number of hours together. Their families spend a ton of time together. Think about it - climbing the ranks as an assistant coach is a nomadic journey. Jobs change frequently and it is hard to build relationships when you are only in a stop for so long. As a results, the family of coaches tend to bond together. The wives have a common bond in understanding the grind of having a largely absent husband during the season. The pressure of being in the public eye. They travel together, eat together, their kids play together. They become extended family together. There is simply no way Urban Meyer did not know. A college football staff is not a business. These guys are sold to recruits as shapers and molders of men. The coaches are frequently having players over to their homes to eat, play, hang out. The wives become pseudo moms to the players. Their kids as younger siblings. That's all part of the job description. An assistant coach's home life is extremely relevant to his job performance in a way that your run of the mill office worker's is not.. [/QUOTE]

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