RIP Jayce Griffin [Alan Griffin's (2020-21) 2-year-old son]

[OrangeXtreme]

 

[CuseFaninVT]

Looks like he had a respiratory infection. Wonder if it was pneumonia.

 

[llandz]

Very sad. Other thought was RSV. Dr didn't find anything alarming on Wednesday.

 

[RF2044]

As a parent, I can't think of a worse thing to happen.

Heartfelt condolences to Alan and the Griffin family.

 

[AZOrange]

My wife and I were talking about taking additional precautions. We just had our first kid and he's 2.5 months, so we would probably do it next spring. Also have 2 clumsy dogs (pitty mix and a frenchie) that don't like the water we worry about falling in. It's an inground pool and the whole backyard is fenced in, but there's nothing directly around the pool itself. We were talking about one of those temporary mesh fences surrounding the pool, and also a sensor that alerts us if a large object goes in the water. We'll start swimming lessons as soon as we can.

You teach them the ninja flip kick thing…it’s a life saver

 

[AZOrange]

This is my worst fear. I have a 2.5-month old and I wish I never learned about SIDS or other things like this. Constantly worried at night. I hope Alan and the whole family find peace. Would be tough to go on after something like this.

Buy a mat monitor if you are nervous. But you can’t worry about all things death and make it through. You have to learn to accept some things are out of your control and extremely rare. If you worry about things too the stress will drive you crazy. And by the way I always thought it would ebb (it doesn’t). You worry more as they age

 

[Cusefan69]

My wife and I were talking about taking additional precautions. We just had our first kid and he's 2.5 months, so we would probably do it next spring. Also have 2 clumsy dogs (pitty mix and a frenchie) that don't like the water we worry about falling in. It's an inground pool and the whole backyard is fenced in, but there's nothing directly around

Teach them early and often. I got my son in the water when he was a peanut. We had a pool and it was mandatory every time he went in the pool the first 10 to 15 minutes were swim lessons. He could swim like a shark soon enough. Get diving toys also. Make it a game. Also show them how to grab the edge of pool and walk the edge to shallow water. Agree with Arizona, you can't worry about everything but you can teach them young.

 

[Niastri]

This is my worst fear. I have a 2.5-month old and I wish I never learned about SIDS or other things like this. Constantly worried at night. I hope Alan and the whole family find peace. Would be tough to go on after something like this.

I gave my three year old extra hugs after reading this thread.

Being a parent is like giving a hostage to fate. The worrying sits so deep and never goes away.

All you can do is understand that most kids live and yours probably will too. It doesn't help much, but it does a little.

 

[swish7]

This is so sad. My mom lost a son (my brother) at about this age, but before I was born. The pain and trauma from the tragedy never left her and it was a defining characteristic of her when she raised me. I don't think you ever forget. My heart goes out to Alan and family...

 

[CuseFaninVT]

This is so sad. My mom lost a son (my brother) at about this age, but before I was born. The pain and trauma from the tragedy never left her and it was a defining characteristic of her when she raised me. I don't think you ever forget. My heart goes out to Alan and family...

Was the same for my aunt (my cousin/goddaughter). Wasn’t as sudden as this, but the effect was permanent. Cost her marriage for sure.

 

[swish7]

Was the same for my aunt (my cousin/goddaughter). Wasn’t as sudden as this, but the effect was permanent. Cost her marriage for sure.

Yes. It was the same in my family. My mom and dad both processed the grief differently. Just awful stuff. I hate hearing about parents whom have to go through the same.

 

[Eric15]

One more thought for any young parents on the board. Group swim lessons are totally worthless. They're fine for like very little kids who are just getting used to the feel of water, but they aren't going to teach your child how to swim. They're usually 30 minutes long, with an instructor and three kids, and your child ends up with maybe 7-8 minutes of personalized attention tops and spends the rest twiddling their thumbs. And if one kid is having a meltdown about something, everything gets disrupted.

One-on-one instruction is worth its weight in gold.

 

[CuseFaninVT]

One more thought for any young parents on the board. Group swim lessons are totally worthless. They're fine for like very little kids who are just getting used to the feel of water, but they aren't going to teach your child how to swim. They're usually 30 minutes long, with an instructor and three kids, and your child ends up with maybe 7-8 minutes of personalized attention tops and spends the rest twiddling their thumbs. And if one kid is having a meltdown about something, everything gets disrupted.

One-on-one instruction is worth its weight in gold.

Moving to the No peasants thread….

 

[Motensocks]

My kid is a year and a half now. I have nightmares. Living in south florida, pool and lake, we have him in swim class and he always has one of us with him. It would basically end my life if anything happened to him.

I cant imagine how his family is right now. Basketball? How do you get past it?

 

[Cusefan69]

My kid is a year and a half now. I have nightmares. Living in south florida, pool and lake, we have him in swim class and he always has one of us with him. It would basically end my life if anything happened to him.

I cant imagine how his family is right now. Basketball? How do you get past it?

Yeah Florida lakes and gators no thanks. I think I would stick with the pool.

 

[Brooky03]

It’s worth noting that ‘fluid in the lungs’ does not mean this is a secondary drowning case. A respiratory infection was mentioned in a few articles.

 

[CuseFaninVT]

It’s worth noting that ‘fluid in the lungs’ does not mean this is a secondary drowning case. A respiratory infection was mentioned in a few articles.

Was just an early guess that led us down this path.