I'm a Broken Fan

[BKCuse]

I survived So Fla, barely, but yesterday's game really broke me as a fan.

I can't continue to invest so much energy and time into this program to be continually frustrated on game day. It ruins my weekend, half of my week and my wife thinks I'm a lunatic - the sad part is of course she's right.

I suppose I shouldn't let these losses effect my life so much. Maybe at 46 years old I'm not mature enough to act like an adult fan but that's who I am.

Maybe I'm a failure as a fan. Maybe I have issues putting sports in perspective. I don't know. All I do know is that I need to make an effort to be less invested in the outcome of a football team I have absolutely no control over.

I've felt this way after other losses and before the week is out I come crawling back, but I want this time to be different ... I think.

Idek what that even means - maybe I ban myself from reading stuff until Friday, maybe I can honestly remove any expectation to win while watching games, i really don't know, but I can't let The Cuse's underperforming football team impact my life so negatively anymore. It's been too many years of pain.

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

 

[FAL]

Look out your window--it's leaf raking time.

 

[Brooky03]

As a casual football fan who used to love the sport with all my heart, I'm actually encouraged by this year's team more than I have been in a long time. Knowing we're outmatched in terms of talent and usually outmatched in coaching, I just hope for exciting plays, close games, and a determined and competitive attitude from the players. I've seen all of that this season, which will probably get me back in the Dome for the upcoming home games.

Don't get down on yourself so much. With programs in the state our football program is in, you have to go into games hoping for a win but knowing a loss is relatively likely. All you can ask for is a good effort on the field. The wins are much sweeter when a program is struggling; you just have to accept a lot of losses are going to accompany them.

 

[PAcuse]

I was at the game and normally when I'm at home I curse, yell, and general through a fit when games like this happen. I don't know if it was the cold breeze or just being tired in general, but it all hit me at once. It's a game of football I had a great day with my family, I got to yell and scream for a bunch of kids that are having the time of the lives on a football. I got to cheer on a coaching staff that wants nothing more then to bring SU a winning product. Does it suck we lost, hell yes. The big picture of this program is we are still moving up. The wins will come, the better players can't want to get to SU now and to play for HCSS and staff.

 

[texascpa]

I could have wrote the same exact thing BK.

 

[rocklloyd]

I survived So Fla, barely, but yesterday's game really broke me as a fan.

I can't continue to invest so much energy and time into this program to be continually frustrated on game day. It ruins my weekend, half of my week and my wife thinks I'm a lunatic - the sad part is of course she's right.

I suppose I shouldn't let these losses effect my life so much. Maybe at 46 years old I'm not mature enough to act like an adult fan but that's who I am.

Maybe I'm a failure as a fan. Maybe I have issues putting sports in perspective. I don't know. All I do know is that I need to make an effort to be less invested in the outcome of a football team I have absolutely no control over.

I've felt this way after other losses and before the week is out I come crawling back, but I want this time to be different ... I think.

Idek what that even means - maybe I ban myself from reading stuff until Friday, maybe I can honestly remove any expectation to win while watching games, i really don't know, but I can't let The Cuse's underperforming football team impact my life so negatively anymore. It's been too many years of pain.

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

This is me. Age and everything...thanks for putting it in words.

 

[MikeSU02]

It's hard. It sucks. But just remember all of us are going through it with you.

And there is always beer.

Or scotch.

 

[texascpa]

It's hard. It sucks. But just remember all of us are going through it with you.

And there is always beer.

Or scotch.

Sometimes I wished I drank.

 

[RICuse44]

I survived So Fla, barely, but yesterday's game really broke me as a fan.

I can't continue to invest so much energy and time into this program to be continually frustrated on game day. It ruins my weekend, half of my week and my wife thinks I'm a lunatic - the sad part is of course she's right.

I suppose I shouldn't let these losses effect my life so much. Maybe at 46 years old I'm not mature enough to act like an adult fan but that's who I am.

Maybe I'm a failure as a fan. Maybe I have issues putting sports in perspective. I don't know. All I do know is that I need to make an effort to be less invested in the outcome of a football team I have absolutely no control over.

I've felt this way after other losses and before the week is out I come crawling back, but I want this time to be different ... I think.

Idek what that even means - maybe I ban myself from reading stuff until Friday, maybe I can honestly remove any expectation to win while watching games, i really don't know, but I can't let The Cuse's underperforming football team impact my life so negatively anymore. It's been too many years of pain.

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

See Rocco's post. You have a to figure out if you enjoy the total process. It makes the peaks that much better.

In all honesty it may be better for you to find a perennial top ten team to root for like osu or bama. Even our peak years with Mcnabb are somewhat disappointing in hindsight

 

[cuse309]

I survived So Fla, barely, but yesterday's game really broke me as a fan.

I can't continue to invest so much energy and time into this program to be continually frustrated on game day. It ruins my weekend, half of my week and my wife thinks I'm a lunatic - the sad part is of course she's right.

I suppose I shouldn't let these losses effect my life so much. Maybe at 46 years old I'm not mature enough to act like an adult fan but that's who I am.

Maybe I'm a failure as a fan. Maybe I have issues putting sports in perspective. I don't know. All I do know is that I need to make an effort to be less invested in the outcome of a football team I have absolutely no control over.

I've felt this way after other losses and before the week is out I come crawling back, but I want this time to be different ... I think.

Idek what that even means - maybe I ban myself from reading stuff until Friday, maybe I can honestly remove any expectation to win while watching games, i really don't know, but I can't let The Cuse's underperforming football team impact my life so negatively anymore. It's been too many years of pain.

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

Watching a game just to watch a good game? No invested interest in the outcome? You just described how my wife watches the games. Nothing worse to hear after a loss like yeterday's than, "Well at least it was a good game!"...Stay strong...ride this out as long as it takes...don't be my wife.

 

[Brooky03]

Do what you have to to keep your sanity. There are no fan points for suffering.

 

[Cuseregular]

I survived So Fla, barely, but yesterday's game really broke me as a fan.

I can't continue to invest so much energy and time into this program to be continually frustrated on game day. It ruins my weekend, half of my week and my wife thinks I'm a lunatic - the sad part is of course she's right.

I suppose I shouldn't let these losses effect my life so much. Maybe at 46 years old I'm not mature enough to act like an adult fan but that's who I am.

Maybe I'm a failure as a fan. Maybe I have issues putting sports in perspective. I don't know. All I do know is that I need to make an effort to be less invested in the outcome of a football team I have absolutely no control over.

I've felt this way after other losses and before the week is out I come crawling back, but I want this time to be different ... I think.

Idek what that even means - maybe I ban myself from reading stuff until Friday, maybe I can honestly remove any expectation to win while watching games, i really don't know, but I can't let The Cuse's underperforming football team impact my life so negatively anymore. It's been too many years of pain.

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

Right there with you . Tough tough tough to keep the interest level high despite the accurate thoughts of others noting the improvement shown. It's been so many years hanging in there so I get it, you're going to have to do what we've done for 15 years...that is make the tailgates the focus of your game day. We've been doing that at FINE MESS for a while now and the good thing is that the games ARE improving with some light at the end of the tunnel. Hang in there man.

 

[jekelish]

I don't get the people who suffered through the Gerg years and are still here, yet are getting this down about an insanely young team with some of the most exciting young offensive talent we've had in years.

I get disappointment, and I'm frustrated as hell. But this isn't even in the same realm as the Gerg years. I'm a little flabbergasted that someone could make it through that, but not stick with it through this.

 

[br801]

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

Save your angst for something really important, like SU basketball.

 

[CuseOnly]

I could have wrote the same exact thing BK.

The OP describes me to a "T" with regard to my fanhood.

Hopefully the worm will turn soon...

 

[Ozcuse]

I don't get the people who suffered through the Gerg years and are still here, yet are getting this down about an insanely young team with some of the most exciting young offensive talent we've had in years.

I get disappointment, and I'm frustrated as hell. But this isn't even in the same realm as the Gerg years. I'm a little flabbergasted that someone could make it through that, but not stick with it through this.

Higher expectations? :noidea:

 

[OttoinGrotto]

Honestly, if not for the hilarity of the board, there'd be no benefit to me as a fan over the last 15 years.

 

[SUfanNC]

keep your heads up. It will take time but we have been through worse. There is still games to win. If you have to step back a little than do it. If Syracuse loses the day will go on. I want HCSS to succeed and believe we have some very very good pieces here and coming in. I don't want to root for another team. Glad to have you guys as a sounding board and fellow fans!!!! Here's to a couple of much needed wins

 

[MadNY3]

I survived So Fla, barely, but yesterday's game really broke me as a fan.

I can't continue to invest so much energy and time into this program to be continually frustrated on game day. It ruins my weekend, half of my week and my wife thinks I'm a lunatic - the sad part is of course she's right.

I suppose I shouldn't let these losses effect my life so much. Maybe at 46 years old I'm not mature enough to act like an adult fan but that's who I am.

Maybe I'm a failure as a fan. Maybe I have issues putting sports in perspective. I don't know. All I do know is that I need to make an effort to be less invested in the outcome of a football team I have absolutely no control over.

I've felt this way after other losses and before the week is out I come crawling back, but I want this time to be different ... I think.

Idek what that even means - maybe I ban myself from reading stuff until Friday, maybe I can honestly remove any expectation to win while watching games, i really don't know, but I can't let The Cuse's underperforming football team impact my life so negatively anymore. It's been too many years of pain.

If anyone has any suggestions I'm all ears

Suck it up...because this very post indicates you sir are a fan.

 

[retro44]

Look out your window--it's leaf raking time.

After seeing the snow today,I put away the rake and broke out the shovel,polished it and then put it right next to the wife.

 

[K Otto XLIV]

I don't get the people who suffered through the Gerg years and are still here, yet are getting this down about an insanely young team with some of the most exciting young offensive talent we've had in years.

I get disappointment, and I'm frustrated as hell. But this isn't even in the same realm as the Gerg years. I'm a little flabbergasted that someone could make it through that, but not stick with it through this.

The program has taken a step back. That is the issue. No one here wants to have to go through another coaching change as it means another 3 years of waiting to be good. If Shafer had kept us flat post GRob no one would have an issue. That fact that so many fans here have talked themselves into moral victories against BAD teams is concerning. I guess it is denial of what is happening.

 

[chakka3421]

I don't get the people who suffered through the Gerg years and are still here, yet are getting this down about an insanely young team with some of the most exciting young offensive talent we've had in years.

I get disappointment, and I'm frustrated as hell. But this isn't even in the same realm as the Gerg years. I'm a little flabbergasted that someone could make it through that, but not stick with it through this.

Well said Jek - during those years we looked like a high school team - I went to every home game and those years were so bad no comparison. This year is so exciting it's like you never know if we are going to score on any play with Dungey & company. Being up or down only 1 score in the 3 losses & CMU game in 4th quarter - awesome football!

If the next 6 games we are up or down by 1 score in all of them in the 4th quarter - sign me up win or lose!

 

[RoatanCuse]

Well BKCuse, You summed up a lot of folks' feelings. I know how you feel. I saw the Davis, Mackey, Little, Nance, Czonka, Morris years on the hill. And I cherished the coach Mac years, even though he had a slow start. (I used to drive up for home games). So like you, losing seasons and close losses still get to me. I wish they didn't, but at 74, they still do. At times i almost think I like the pain. (J/K). My wife loves SU too, and keeps telling me the program will come back. Well, I hope it turns around before the grim reaper finds me. Like you, come Friday, the bug gets to me and I find myself tuning in again. Guess it's in my DNA now. Hey, on tbe lighter side, aren't the leave piling up,on your lawn? Good luck. Take care. Cheers.

 

[BKCuse]

I don't get the people who suffered through the Gerg years and are still here, yet are getting this down about an insanely young team with some of the most exciting young offensive talent we've had in years.

I get disappointment, and I'm frustrated as hell. But this isn't even in the same realm as the Gerg years. I'm a little flabbergasted that someone could make it through that, but not stick with it through this.

This is a whole different animal than Grob to me because things were a lost cause back then. I knew we were dead in the water so it was easier to accept defeat. Finally we were on the doorstep of relevancy with Marrone and then he skipped town and set us back.

Now we seem to be knocking on the door again with the right recruits verballed and epic momentum after LSU (which was literally the best I've EVER felt about a team off a loss) and we immediately punk out vs 2 beatable teams. So instead of 5-1 and sniffing around top 25 status with a rocking Dome for a brawl with Pitt we're 3-3, and it's the same old same old again with the spotlight on SS's job security and 20somethingK in the Dome for Pitt. SS's perceived job security is such an easy tool to negatively recruit against us with and we just served it up on a silver platter.

God forbid things really do spin wildly out of control here and AD makes a change, we'll have to start climbing the mountian yet again. I'm not prepared to handle that when we could see the friggin mountian peak 2 weeks ago!!!

When Grob was here there was no hope.

Fwiw I never missed a game when I was a student 87-91. One of the greatest memories of my life was rushing the field when we beat defending Nat Champ Penn St in '87 so I know what our program can and should be.

 

[kcsu]

Work out, donate your time to a cause, pet the dog, make a great meal, pick some pumpkins, have a nice cocktail by the fire, rake a few leaves, get laid. If none of these work thank God that you are not a Rutgers fan.