SUFaninNJ
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A few years ago, my then-employer offered a job to a professional acquaintance of mine, and myself and my boss spent several hours over a couple weeks talking with her about joining us. She strung us along for a while, and then ultimately decided to stay at her current job. By the time she rejected us, our hiring window had closed so we weren't able to find a replacement in that hiring cycle. We were all very upset with her, and my then-boss (who is now a friend) to this day uses her name as a shorthand for all manner of terrible things.
Then a couple years after that, I got a job opportunity that I liked but required a major lifestyle change. I dithered and dithered for months before making the decision to leave at the last possible moment, leaving my then-employer down a senior person at a particularly bad time with a bare minimum of notice.
This is to say, making big personal decisions is really challenging, even for adults. It's easy to say everyone should handle these with perfect grace and professionalism, but when so much is at stake (or seems to be a stake), making these decisions can be very difficult.
But you didn't commit to them and then change your mind months later, correct?