We disagree. Facing the music means going through the (student) judicial process, paying his penance and working his way back into his coaches good graces through contrition and hard work .. not cutting and running. Pretending this is just about "PT" is missing the point.
Or, he could not hang out with the guys be was hanging with and stay sober.
Another possibility. If so, kudos to him for realizing this.
We do disagree. I don't think it misses the point at all. But neither of us know the whole story.
Well, from the article I read (and the follow-up tweets), the point for me is that this kid is not just the average HS star upset about his PT at a D-1 LAX powerhouse. He's a kid that drank himself silly, punched a girl in the face and got arrested on misdemeanor charges. He had no choice but to face the charges .. which were (apparently) resolved via pleas to lesser offenses. And that's all fine. However, now that he has a choice (to remain at SU and reinstate himself as a member of the team and U community) ... he's bolting. To me, that's not learning a lessen. That's minimizing the consequences and moving out of town.
Maybe his parents thought his environment at SU led to his poor decision-making and thought that he needed to get away from bad influences by starting over somewhere else? I actually don't know why he transferred, but it doesn't actually mean he's doing it to escape any consequences. If he doesn't want to be at SU anymore, why would he stick around? Just to appease other people and get sanctioned by the SU judicial review board?
Why would he stick around to ... [face the consequences of his behavior]? Because that's the right thing to do (IMO). He should show that he's learned from this and wants to be a better person. Maybe you're right about the "influences" .. but those are going to be at the next stop down the line also. If I'm his parent, I'm telling him .. face the music and do what you need to do to reinstate yourself on the team and in your community. My advice would never be ... cut and run. But that's just me. Other people may reach a different conclusion.
Sure there are transfers. But those players weren't facing charges and using transfer to avoid the fall-out from their own mistakes.
Good luck to him. Hope he's learned something...