The bolded is actually the assertion that I was directly stating is fine for an individual to apply to themselves for their own circumstances, but one that is inappropriate to demand another apply to themselves and their circumstances. I actually completely understood your point, I just hugely disagree with the application.
To make another comparison that's relevant to the times... I believe it's hugely valuable in general for people to be conscious of their privileges in life, and self-assess them frequently. I try to do it in my own and for my own life. But I would find it completely inappropriate for me to tell another person to "check their privilege." There's little chance of that doing any good, and it would indicate an embedded judgment on my part that's simply not fair.
