You’re going to be a father soon, right? Your life is going to change like you cannot imagine. If you are any kind of a decent human being, you are really going to learn what it means to care for another person more than yourself, to be ready to make sacrifices to your own wants and desires. I would say that any father or mother that is not involved at least some has not learned that part. Chance’s father sounds like a father who wants his son to learn to make wise decisions, not ones that are impulsive. You are going to learn, and you will look back and know you are a better person because of it.