I have coached and I have reffed. Of the two my opinion is that reffing is much harder. That said there are calls that are inexplicable other than the ref just flat wasn't paying attention. I actually got my first T in over 10 years this season. There is no question I deserved the T and there is no question the ref deserved my ire. My player (my son actually) is playing soft off the ball defense on his man, ball handler picks up his dribble and but didn't have a shot so he launched himself sideways into my player who to quite honest wasn't even looking at him, he was looking at his man. The ref calls my guy for a foul. I looked to the other ref and asked "Aren't you going to over rule him?" "Nope." I called a timeout and as the ref was walking to the scorers table I walked out on the court and said "Man I feel sorry for you." "Why's that?" he responds. Me: "Because that was the most embarrassing call I've ever seen and all these people saw it too!" T! I said "Thank you" and I walked back to my huddle apologized to my team and told them I owed them 2 points. One of the kids said "That's alright coach, they owe us a hell of lot more than that!" Bottom line, reffing is very hard and you get what you pay for. Half of my leagues refs are high school refs that ref our league on Saturdays and Sundays. Most of them are fairly good. The other half are just some Joe's that for some reason are willing to ref youth rec league games for $30 a game. Without them there would be no youth rec leagues so I give them respect too. But when they make calls or don't make calls that bring potential injuries into the equation I let them know about it. After this game several parents on the other team came up to me and told me stories about how bad that ref had been in other games they had played, which I already knew. The guys a tool and I played softball against him for years and he was a tool then. I actually witnessed him get thrown out of a softball game for intentionally throwing at runner and hitting him. That bit of back history likely played into my lack of patience because I usually have a pretty friendly banter with the refs.