bballbeadle
Woman of a certain age
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I loved your responses! The restraining order will be the first thing I try out. Reminding him of the eye surgeries (and perhaps that even now he may be struggling with a groin injury) is also good.Reading this thread is interesting in that it makes you examine your own behavior a bit.
Me personally, I now question how funny my constant berating of my least favorite Buffalo Sabre (Derek Roy) was. I would yell witty retorts like:
“Hit him with your purse, Roy!”
“Sure you’d rather be out clubbing right now but get in the game!”
“How deep is your V-Neck T-shirt tonight, Roy?”
“Can you at least pretend to play physically?”
“Much rather be on Chippewa I see, huh?”
But I digress. And I also think there’s a difference between getting on paid professionals and getting on college student athletes. As such, I would not participate in harassing college players (too much haha).
As far as what can be done in this situation...agree with others who say it’s a tricky situation, as people are generally entitled to express their fandom as they see fit (within reason).
First I might try to get through to him with some humor. Something like:
“Hey, did Chukwu get that restraining order against you yet?” or maybe
“Hope you don’t mind, but in interest of fairness I informed Paschal about the pickup basketball games you play in every Friday night at the Y. He’ll be showing up to “support” you.” or maybe
“You ever feel bad picking on a guy who is playing ball in a foreign country half ways around world from his native Nigeria...hasn’t seen his biological parents since he left years ago...and yet is a nice, personable young man?”
“Too bad it was his eyes that required 3 surgeries last year instead of his ears in hopes Paschal wouldn’t have to listen to your garbage attitude.”
Or if all else fails try this last one:
“I’m sorry, but maybe you weren’t here when the greater Syracuse Community concluded that Paschal Chukwu is above criticism ever since this happened:”
Good luck! Let us know if you use any of our suggestions haha
When the kid traded places with his dad, it put him right next to a 12 year old girl and her mother who drive 45 minutes one way to get to the games, and they’ve been coming for at least four years. When I have the opportunity, I would like to tell this kid and his father that the stream of derogatory comments has a negative impact on everyone around them, and if he doesn’t care about us, maybe he would care about this girl (who is a joy at every game - last game had a Santa hat and light bulb necklace and got on the Fan Can twice).
This kid also made a gay slur during one of our first games. I didn’t hear it but I was told of it.
His father is doing him no favors in indulging him.
I will definitely give the board updates, especially since we all may need to contemplate our fandom and how we express ourselves as we try to support our team this year.