In my mind it's not even about being a "player"- I mean, we're not, nor ever will be a football factory.
But we should be able to have consistency enough to where we win more then we lose, and make one of the hundreds of bowl games that are out there- on a fairly regular basis.
To do that we need to win some of these "big stage" games, at home, against evenly matched opponents. Yet we seem to always spit-the-bit and gag a little when we get the opportunity. And honestly, Dino seems to pucker up more than anybody.
I don't need to see histrionics on the sidelines, but how about some credible in-game strategizing? He always seems to have a hiccup in these games- whether it's clock management, timeouts, or decision-making. At this point, it's no longer surprising, just annoying.